The Best Position for Vaginal Orgasms (for Most Women)
by Courtney Virden
One of the things I hear most often is women saying they cannot achieve orgasm without clitoral stimulation, whether from a partner or solo with a vibrator. Internal orgasms remain something many women have never experienced yet. Plus, there are a great number of women who are not able to orgasm at all.
Types of Female Orgasms and Sexual Pleasure
The types of orgasms women typically want in the bedroom are clitoral orgasms and the often elusive G-spot orgasm. Clitoral orgasms are from external stimulation, and G-spot orgasms are from internal stimulation. Clitoral vs. vaginal orgasms are a hot topic leaving many women wondering about the best positions for g-spot orgasms and the best positions for clitoral stimulation.
While clitoral orgasms are amazing, G-spot orgasms are a different kind of incredible orgasmic contractions, and many women who aren’t having them can be. G-spot stimulation can not only lead to vaginal orgasms, but you also become one of the multi-orgasmic women. G-spot orgasms can be had alone or in conjunction with clitoral stimulation.
The Muscles Around the Vagina Are Key
Pelvic floor muscles are a key component to achieving internal orgasms and how to have stronger orgasms. Your emotions, beliefs, and past traumas can all play a part as well. However, a female orgasm and multiple orgasms are possible because of the muscles of the pelvic floor.
The pelvic floor and sex are intertwined for women and even men. For women, the pelvic floor is the muscles that support the pelvic organs and are used for all of our daily movements. Far too many women, at least 1 in 4, have some type of pelvic floor dysfunction. Whether that is pelvic pain, bladder leakage, painful intercourse, low back pain, or other symptoms, it can greatly affect a woman’s life and her sex life.
When women orgasm, the strength and tone of their pelvic floor can help those orgasms feel more powerful and pleasurable. During orgasm, a woman’s pelvic floor has rhythmic contractions of tension and relaxation. The stronger, more toned, and more elastic a woman’s pelvic floor is, the more powerful her orgasms can be.
Yet, keep in mind a tight pelvic floor is not a good thing. Sex and a tight pelvic floor often mean the women will be experiencing issues. Such as painful intercourse or difficulty achieving orgasm, plus possible other pelvic floor dysfunction symptoms, even bladder leakage being one.
How to Strengthen the Pelvic Floor for Sex
Pelvic floor programs can help restore and improve the strength and elasticity of your pelvic floor. You might be wondering, do orgasms strengthen pelvic floor muscles? Yes, but for women wanting to achieve internal orgasms, pelvic floor exercises can significantly help. A good pelvic floor exercise program can even take the place of pelvic floor physical therapy for many women.
If your pelvic floor is too loose and overstretched, you have a tight pelvic floor (hypertonic), or a combination; our pelvic floor programs can help you restore optimal pelvic floor health—no need for Kegel exercises for sexual function or intense orgasms. Kegels are muscle contractions that can lead to a pelvic floor that is too tight and rigid, which can cause pain during shallow or deep penetration.
Even if you don’t have pelvic floor dysfunction, pelvic floor exercises can help you improve sexual sensations and female orgasm contractions while increasing comfort in the bedroom. A pelvic floor with strength (in multiple planes of movement), responsiveness, and the ability to relax can help you get powerful vaginal orgasmic contractions to get those mind-blowing orgasms internally as well as stimulate the clitoris, and that feels good.
Vaginal vs. clitoral orgasms feel different, yet both are extremely pleasurable. Oral sex or using a vibrator is how many women first have clitoral orgasms. Now that we have discussed the importance of your pelvic floor, let’s get started with the best positions for female orgasms!
Best Position for G-spot Stimulation
The best sex position for orgasm for the woman is the woman on top. This position is the easiest way for most women to have an internal pelvic floor orgasm. The best orgasm positions allow a woman’s nerve pathways to be most open, and this position allows for that.
Doggy style is another position many women find they experience internal orgasms with. The missionary position is difficult for many women to orgasm. The woman on top is how so many women achieve their first, hopefully of many more to come, internal orgasms from intercourse.
Being on top can leave a woman feeling vulnerable and not comfortable with it. Remember, most partners want to learn sex positions to make you orgasm and want you to feel comfortable and experience pleasure. Being on top also has other key erogenous zones and easy access for your partner to help push you toward orgasm. You can be on top with the light off to get comfortable or turn them on if you want. Either way, this position is so key for most women to experience internal organs and learn how to have them.
How to Have A Vaginal Orgasm (for most women)
Lots of men love an up-and-down motion, yet for many women, that doesn’t lead them to orgasm. Instead, hope on top when your partner is lying down, and either face your partner or turn away(reverse cowgirl). Moving as described below will help your energy and stamina while stimulating your G-spot to help get you those vaginal orgasms. Some women can experience G-spot orgasms from sex toys first and then move on to do that with their partner.
If you find sex stressful or a source of conflict, you might want to see a qualified sex therapist. Once you have one orgasm, keep going—more could be just around the corner. Try adding clitoral stimulation to enhance your arousal as you feel your way through the process.
The BEST move to help you achieve internal orgasms is the front-to-back pelvic tilt (see video). Using that motion—sitting tall on top of your partner instead of a stability ball—stimulates the front of your vaginal wall and the internal structure of your clitoris, which can help push you over the edge into those deep internal orgasms you’ve been wanting to have. Stay relaxed and keep doing the pelvic tilts, focusing on going from neutral to a front pelvic tilt. Take your time; there is no rush! This should be pleasurable, not stressful.